Identity after caring | The Other Side Of De

Who am I now?

It’s a question many carers ask in the months after their loved one dies.

During the caring years, your identity becomes fixed:

And then suddenly, that role is gone.

Rebuilding identity is slow and uneven.

For me, it began with walking.

Then writing.

Then reconnecting with my sons.

Then rediscovering interests I had set aside.

If you are in this stage:

please give yourself time.

Your identity hasn’t vanished—

it is simply rearranging itself.